How To Meet Transsexuals, Shemales And Transvestites

By Kristy

One question has been asked more often than any other. That question is; How do I meet T grrls?

On this page I'm going to answer that question. I sincerely hope that something here helps you make a special connection!

I could probably write a book on this subject, but I'm going to boil it all down to some basics that will help you make a successful connection, hopefully with someone very special.

T grrls are special - Femininity is a tremendous satisfaction for t grrls and most love the attention from a gentleman admirer. Notice the word "gentleman." When a t grrl feels that she is being treated with the dignity and respect befitting a lady she is in heaven. Make a grrl feel like a lady and you're well on your way to success! Some of the men I have spoken with tell me that nobody else can make them feel the way a t grrl can make them feel. I think it would be a safe guess that these guys know how to treat a t grrl like a lady. T grrls really are special and they can make you feel special too!

Identify what you're looking for - Do you want a long-term relationship, short-term relationship or a sexual encounter. In other words, how serious are you. Do you want to meet a pre-op, post-op, transvestite, etc. Perhaps you're interested in a sexual experience but you're open to the idea that it could lead to a long-term relationship.

Understand that not all t grrls are the same - It is important that you have at least a basic understanding of the various types of t grrls. A common mistake is to assume that all t grrls are the same. This is risky business and your misunderstanding could cause you to miss out on an opportunity to meet the grrl of your dreams. Some t grrls are heterosexual male crossdressers. They simply aren't interested in men, so perhaps you shouldn't waste your time. Others are bi-sexual (your chances are improving here). Some t grrls are looking for men, others are looking for women. Some are seeking sex changes, and others are not. Some live full-time as females, others live part-time as females. Confused yet? You really shouldn't be. T grrls fall somewhere within a broad spectrum. Read or listen as t grrls describe themselves and you will gain insight into exactly where they are in their life and where they intend to go.  A dialog should be able to resolve any remaining questions you might have. Remember that you're looking for someone who will compliment what you're looking for and your job is to narrow the field to those who are looking for someone just like you!

What kind of T grrl do you want to meet? - One of the most awkward topics is also one of the most important. You already know that not all t grrls are the same. The fact is that many are actively pursuing sex change surgery and are uncomfortable with their male genitalia. These grrls are not likely to take kindly to your desire to fondle their "extra parts." Others are quite comfortable and are willing to explore all aspects of their sexuality. Simple communication will answer that question and you can decide what is important to you. I would recommend that you pose a question whenever it is appropriate, such as, how would you expect your partner to satisfy you? Notice that this question seeks to draw out a response and you may be surprised at what you can learn about a person by asking these types of questions. Obviously this wouldn't be the first question you would want to ask, but at the right time, a probing question can provide you with a wealth of information and insight.

Use proper terminology - You will quickly learn that not all t grrls like being called shemales. While some of us don't take exception to the term, it is an error in terminology that can quickly send you packing. Indeed, many well-intentioned admirers have struck out simply because of a misguided attempt to be friendly. Here is a good rule to follow; Don't refer to anyone as a shemale, transsexual, transvestite, etc. until you have asked what she prefers to be called. A politely worded inquiry should prompt a t grrl to let you know exactly what term she considers most appropriate. If you must use a term, rather than a person's name, perhaps the term transgendered is the least offensive of all the terms. This is a generic term that fits most t grrls and is rarely offensive.

Avoid horrible opening lines - I have frequently wondered, does anyone really get lucky using lines like "hey, any chicks with dicks in this chatroom?" or, "I sure could use a shemale to suck my dick." Ask yourself, is my intention to offend people, or do I really want to meet people that will enrich my life? If you chose the latter, you will probably want to avoid the horrible opening lines. Instead, try showing an interest in t grrls that you see online in the personal ads, in chat rooms, on message boards or even in person. Begin by introducing yourself briefly and asking permission to chat, e-mail or whatever. Try exchanging information, making small talk and getting to know the grrls. By investing a little time to get to know us, you will be able to sort through those of us who you genuinely have an interest in.

Search the personal ads - Personal ads are one of the best ways to meet quality people. Unlike people who are chatting in the chat rooms, or who post messages on bulletin boards, the people who place personals are interested in meeting others. In fact, they are so interested that they have taken the time to place a personal ad. I recommend that you first search the personal ads to see if you find someone interesting. If so, politely respond to their ad to see if you can begin corresponding. If all goes well, perhaps this will result in a personal meeting and romance! If you don't see anyone that matches your criteria, try placing your own personal ad. A recent photo in your ad is an absolute must. When used properly, personal ads are one of the most effective and least expensive methods for meeting quality people. I frequently hear back from people who have met someone special in the personals.

Visit the nightclubs - You may wish to find a local nightclub where you can meet t grrls in person. This offers the advantage that you will immediately know if there is an attraction. There is also the possibility of an immediate gratification if you hit it off. There is also a disadvantage that you must be aware of. While many of the t grrls go to transgender friendly nightclubs to socialize in a safe environment, there are others who are there to sell their wares. Some of the t grrls you will meet at nightclubs are professionals and you will pay a price for their affection.  This can be an effective way to meet t grrls, but please let common sense guide you and be careful!

Use online resources - There are a number of online resources that will help you understand and meet t grrls. Among these are chat rooms, message boards, personal ads and directory searches. Each has their own advantages and disadvantages. It is unlikely that you will make a romantic connection in the chat rooms and message boards, but who knows? I still recommend that you familiarize yourself with each of these resources. You will learn about t grrls in the process. You'll be amazed at what you can learn if you sit back and read the posts along with replies. For example, watch the t grrls go ballistic when a guy enters a chat room and says, "hey, anybody want to suck my 9 inches."

Make a great first impression - Whether in person or in writing, making a good first impression is critical for success. Most of us understand the importance of being clean and presenting ourselves in a positive manner in person to person meetings. What many of us fail to realize is that first impressions are equally important in written communications. When you are e-mailing, chatting online or exchanging Instant Messages, you must rely on mere words to make a good first impression. You will want to carefully choose your words so you don't come off as offensive. Good grammar and spelling is important, so don't get sloppy just because you're communicating electronically. It is also important that you don't give the impression that you're impatient, insincere or desperate.  Practice being a good communicator, which means expressing yourself well and being a good listener. Using good communication skills, you will be able to learn about the t grrls you meet and sort through them to find those that interest you the most.

Promote yourself! - Here is a beauty of a tip that will pay off big if used properly. If you are sincere in your desire to meet a tgrrl, take a little time and make yourself a website. It doesn't have to be elaborate, but it should include some basic information about you. A photo is a must. A recent photo please, 'cause you probably aren't going to impress anyone if you publish a 15 year old photo of you and then they meet the present you. Describe yourself honestly and state exactly what you're looking for. Tell a little about your interests, dislikes and anything that makes you interesting or different from all the other guys they may hear from. You don't have to be a professional website designer. There are many programs available online that guide you through the process of setting up a website easily and painlessly. AOL members can set up a hometown page for free. There are other free services such as angelfire.com, geocities.com and countless others. The idea here is that you can provide a link to your personal website to anyone you meet online, whether you are chatting in a chat room, responding to a personal ad or responding to a message board post. This is a great way to attract people who are truly interested in you!

Steer clear of the bad apples - Just like other people in the real world, some t grrls have drug or alcohol problems, nasty dispositions, etc.. A few simple questions will reveal many of these undesirable traits. Be honest and forthright in your communications and expect the same from others. I say it is definitely worth spending a little time getting to know someone, rather than rushing into a meeting that could be unpleasant, or even disastrous. Most t grrls are good people, but there are those who should be avoided.

Play it safe! - You must screen your t grrl friends just as you would screen any other potential friends or lovers. Do they possess undesirable traits such as drug addiction, alcohol abuse, criminal intent, HIV+, etc? Remember that you must protect yourself. I don't want to preach here, but safety is a very important consideration that cannot be overlooked just because you have a raging hardon! The subject of safe sex also cannot be overemphasized. While we strongly defend a persons right to sexual freedom, we also believe in a responsibility of all people to engage in safe sex. This means getting to know someone before you hop in the sack, using condoms and periodic testing for sexually transmitted diseases. Have fun, but play it safe!

Patience and perseverance are good qualities - Be prepared to sort through a number of t grrls before you meet the person who is just right for you. My mama told me "you better shop around." This is pretty sound advice, don't you think? By trying to rush into something, many good men are turned away by the t grrls I've seen online. Have a little patience and don't give up. Keep trying and refining your approach. If you follow these tips, I assure you there is someone out there who can't wait to find you!